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May 1, 2018

I am waiting for the end of cruelty

Recently, I noticed a few articles about an astronomical event that predicted the coming of the Messiah on April 23. The idea is sensational to me. As a Jew, I’m not picturing the Second Coming of Christ, but rather...

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Apr 9, 2018

Politics: What can I do about it?

Don’t ask me about politics. As a psychologist, the work I do focuses mainly on thoughts and feelings. I help people reach new heights of flexibility, losing rigid attachments to an idea of how things have to be. I do...

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Mar 1, 2018

Why would you deliberately hurt yourself?

Life is hard enough to begin with. The idea that you would maliciously hurt yourself seems baffling. Unfortunately, in my years working as a psychologist, I have encountered a vast number of acts of self-mutilation. I...

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Feb 1, 2018

Tooting my own horn

When I completed revisions on my first book, I was faced with a dilemma. I had written the book after being sent by the Israeli Foreign Ministry to lecture on mental health in China and Turkey. In preparing these...

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Jan 1, 2018

Alone but not lonely

Recently, I went to a repair shop to get my cell phone fixed. My friends and family had been complaining of late that when they called me, my voice sounded muffled and too quiet. It turned out that the entire...

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Dec 3, 2017

Qualifying for the spiritual olympics

Just came back yesterday from a three-day jaunt to the town of Uman in Ukraine, where a very important eighteenth-century Hassidic rabbi is buried, Rabbi Nachman of Breslov. While I am not a Breslaver Hassid, large...

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Nov 9, 2017

What can I do to take care of myself?

Working at the rehab, I spend a lot of time helping my clients develop healthy avenues for ensuring good mood and serenity. I’m talking here about learning to protect their entire psychophysiology on a day-to-day...

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Oct 16, 2017

Accepting my limitations

The other day, my car wouldn’t start. I got into the vehicle, la di da, ready to be on my way, and it simply wouldn’t turn on. My husband’s assistant came running, enthusiastic to give me a hand, but he, too, was...

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Sep 14, 2017

Knowing what better looks like

I spend a lot of time working with my clients on change. Ostensibly, that’s the reason they’ve come to rehab. They cannot continue to expose themselves time after time to the ridiculous at best, grotesque and perverse...

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Aug 7, 2017

There must be SOMETHING about me that’s worthy…

At the rehab yesterday, I conducted an exercise in which the clients were instructed to begin a sentence with, “It’s hard for me…” One young lady’s response set the whole group off and running headlong into a huge...

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Jul 11, 2017

Obsessive attachments

The other day, in the group I was leading, I asked if any of the participants had an obsession or attachment they wanted to explore. The gentleman to my left, a weed-smoker for thirty years, said, “I don’t know, Dr....

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Jun 5, 2017

Unexpected challenges

Knocked down, but not knocked out. A year ago, I underwent cataract surgery on my right eye, otherwise known as my weak eye. Surgery went well. The anesthesia kept me comfortably in and out of reality, although during...

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May 13, 2017

Staring my fear down

I am readying myself psychically for a second cataract operation. Due to a variety of circumstances, I have waited a year between surgeries. The doctor who did the first procedure examined me a few days ago and said...

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Apr 17, 2017

Holocaust Remembrance Day

Holocaust Remembrance Day is coming up, and I swear, the older I get, the more devastated I become as I watch the documentaries and hear the radio interviews of the aging survivors. It pains me to come to terms with...

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Mar 10, 2017

The love of a dog

Often, when I do guided thinking with my clients, I ask first if they love, hate or fear dogs. (Guided thinking is a therapeutic technique that involves me instructing my client to render forth an image or idea that I...

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Feb 6, 2017

Not my most impressive workshop

I was recently asked by a friend of mine, the director of a women’s seminary, to create a workshop for professionals in Jerusalem. I thought it would be a delightful opportunity to talk about some of my favorite...

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Jan 11, 2017

Generosity of spirit

On occasion, when I'm at work at the rehab, I look around and ask myself: How did I get into all this, anyway? I must admit that working with addicts is often a frustrating experience. Many times, I give my “all” and...

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Dec 7, 2016

When a moral compass is lacking

I have come to realize that some of my clients literally have no concept of right and wrong. They have no intrinsic moral code. Everything is okay and acceptable, sort of, when it suits them. They can justify anything....

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Nov 13, 2016

HOW do you want to be when you grow up?

It’s often asked of children, and some immature adults: What would you like to be when you grow up? Personally, I think a better question would be how you want to be. How would you like to be emotionally? What kind of...

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Oct 9, 2016

The virtues of becoming your own cheerleader

Becoming your own cheerleader – it’s the best way of keeping motivated I can think of. I have noticed over the years that one of the reasons people quit when they’ve undertaken a challenge is that there is no one...

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